What Is The Average Time Men Last During Sex?

During my private coaching session where I teach men specific skills to help them last longer in bed, a common question I get asked by my clients is “What is the average time men last in bed?”.

Many men assumed that it’s normal for the average man to easily continue sex for 20 minutes or more. But the results from recent studies have returned some surprising results.

Research On The Average Duration Of Sex

The best research to date is probably an international study conducted in 2005. The study, titled “A multinational population survey of intravaginal ejaculation latency time”, which is basically a fancy way to say how long does sex last?

The research was focused on premature ejaculation and tracked 500 heterosexual couples from Spain, The Netherlands, Turkey, the US, and the UK and asked them to record the duration of their sexual intercourse over a 4 week period.

So what’s the magic number? You may be surprised to hear that the average time between the beginning of sexual penetration until ejaculation occurred was 5.6 minutes. Yes, under 6 minutes.

The vast majority of men had sex for between 4 to 11 minutes. The shortest was 6 seconds and one marathon man recorded a 53-minute session with his partner.

As with all research based on people’s private lives, this research has a number of limitations. As the subjects were asked to physically start and stop a stopwatch next to the bed, one wonders about the sexual mood at the time.

It should be noted that foreplay was not included in this time and that other surveys have returned vastly different results. A study in the 1950s, for example, claimed that the average time in bed for a man in the 50s was just 2 minutes. While other studies have returned results as high as 15 minutes.

What else was studied

This study also looked at condom use and whether or not the man was circumcised. And surprising many, there was no correlation between either factor and the average duration of sexual intercourse. This is a big reason why for my course I help you improve your sexual focus, rather than the physical sensation of your penis.

Other Research On The Average Duration Of Sexual Intercourse

There have been a number of other attempts to measure the average time of sexual intercourse and while they do give us some more data points they are far from conclusive.

Most studies of this type measure the intravaginal ejaculatory latency time or IELT. Results have been returned as low as 1.5 minutes and as high as 15 minutes.

Interestingly it was found that when men are asked to self-report, they overestimated the time they had sex for by a factor of 1.9.  That’s almost doubling the time of actual sex. So you are always going to have a problem getting correct answers when relying on the honesty of the men. Especially when pride is at stake.

My Case Study

With a lack of further studies and figuring that I’d get a more truthful answer from females than us guys, I sent a short survey out to some female friends of mine. Most didn’t mind answering and here are the results.

In all, a total of 8 women responded (yes, it’s a very small sample), and the question I asked was very simple…

Based on personal experience what is the average time men last in bed?

And here are the results:

Average duration on intercourse: 7.8 minutes
The median duration of intercourse: 7.minutes
Lowest respondent’s average: 5 Minutes
Highest respondents average: 15 Minutes

These results are a bit higher than the international study but still appear lower than many would expect.

But truth be told. We are asking the wrong question. The question we should be asking is this: How long SHOULD men last during sex to satisfy their partner?

How Long Should Sex Last?

A 2008 study measured the perceptions of Canadian and American sex therapists in regards to how long they thought sex should last.  This study focused more on the desired length of sex rather than actual averages.

Here are the results:

Too short: 0-2 minutes
Adequate: 3-7 minutes
Desirable: 7-12 minutes
Too long: 10 – 30 minutes

As you can see there’s quite a bit of discrepancy between individual sex therapists.

How Long Do Women Expect Sex To Last?

At the end of the day, there is no one number that is going to be the ideal duration of sex. Everyone is different and everyone has different expectations of sex.

On average, it takes women around 13 minutes to orgasm during sex. And this is longer than the average man lasts according to the research and is sometimes referred to as the orgasm gap.

How Long Should Men Aim To Have Sex For?

As a coach for men, some of who have severe premature ejaculation, it is not uncommon for my clients to start off at between 0 and 1 minute of sexual intercourse before ejaculation. For these men, I usually set a goal of lasting between 10 to 20 minutes. And in truth, once these men learn these skills and techniques to go for 10 minutes, it is not difficult to extend to 20 minutes and in many cases to reach a stage where they call last as long as they choose.

I have also found that the guys who start off with severe premature ejaculation, end up lasting just as long as the guys with moderate premature ejaculation.

Another thing about using premature ejaculation exercises and other behavioral methods to last longer in bed that I teach is that your sexual abilities, techniques, and understanding of your partner will also improve. An a woman may not want 20 minutes of boring and bland sex, but once you start to really focus on her know how to hit her spots she is unlikely to get bored.

Ways To Last Longer During Sex

If you can’t last in bed you don’t have to be stuck in that below-average group (or even the “average” group for that matter), because it is possible to build up your ejaculatory control through training. Check out my guide on making sex last longer to learn more about the many ways men can eliminate premature ejaculation for good.

Dan Becket
Dan Becket
Hi. I'm Dan. I coach men on how to last longer in bed and how you can improve your ejaculatory control. I have helped thousands of men permanently stop premature ejaculation naturally with my personally developed training system. You can learn more about me here or skip straight to my outline on how to last longer in bed and start learning today. Best of luck. - Dan

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