How To Last Longer In Bed

By Dan Becket

By Dan Becket
Researcher, Author, Coach.

Hi. I’m Dan. I coach men on how to last longer in bed and here I’ll show you the exact steps to last over 20 minutes every time.

How To Last Longer In Bed Training Guide

The following are tried and tested methods that are helping men last longer in bed right now. Next, it’s time to get them working for you.

If you’re a woman, read this first.

For the men, this guide covers a lot. So we’ve broken it down to these 7 steps. 

The 7 Steps To Last Longer In Bed

  1. Instant cool down techniques that stop you ejaculating too soon (Use these tonight)
  2. Develop a sexual mindset for longer lasting sex
  3. Last longer by breathing the right way during intercourse (Learn in 5 minutes)
  4. How to read your sexual response system and take action
  5. Advanced Exercises to last longer in bed without pills (Important)
  6. Last longer during sex with the best positions and techniques
  7. How to get in the zone every time (Advanced)

These are the raw methods taken straight from my Ejaculation Freedom Program. Though all the information here is totally free.

7 Easy Ways To Last Longer In Bed

You may last under a minute during sex now. But if you follow the steps laid out here exactly, will increase your lasting time to at least 20 minutes. 

Note: For the next section I will speak to you as one of my clients. It’s what I’m used to and the best way to explain all the methods to you.

We have a lot to cover, so let’s get into it…

1. Stop Ejaculating Too Soon With These Instant Cool Down Tricks

Cool down your ejaculation system with these techniques

We’ll start with 2 instant cool down methods. These are specific actions you will take to cool your system fast and bring you back from the dreaded point of no return.

Most guys who can’t last in bed begin to panic during sex when you start losing control. This only makes things worse. But once you have a few cool-down techniques up your sleeve, you’ll be confident knowing you always have a fallback.

The two techniques I’ll show you today are easy to learn and you can use them tonight.

1. The TBP Method

The TBP Method has been used by all my private clients and It’s super easy to learn.

TBP stands for TongueBackPush. Use this technique when you feel your arousal level rising but before you reach the point of no return.

There are 3 parts to it:

Part 1 – Run the tip of your tongue in a circular motion around the roof of your mouth. You can keep your mouth closed, so your partner won’t even notice. It will tickle slightly. I know this sounds a bit weird but stick with me. I’ll explain why it works in a tick.

Part 2 – At the same time run your hands up and down your partner’s back in long even strokes. Spread your fingers and go all the way up to her shoulders and down to her lower back (but avoid her butt).

 Tune in to how she feels. Her skin. Her muscles. Her contour.  This is your prime focus.

If you are in a position where you cannot reach her back (such as missionary), focus on the back of her shoulders, neck, and head. In this case, you will also focus on the feel of her hair.

Part 3 – The final part is to push your PC Muscle out (learn how to find your PC muscles here). Push out as though you’re starting the flow of urine (don’t worry, nothing will come out – I promise). Visualize yourself pushing out and releasing tension within. Hold for about 5 seconds and then release. Relax for 5 seconds and repeat.

Why it works:

  • Stops you narrowly focusing
  • Removes tension from your pelvic area (push)
  • Prevents you from focusing only on genital stimulation
  • Returns your focus to your partner

The PBT method is great because your partner wont notice you doing anything, apart from the extra attention paid to her back, which she will enjoy.

2: The Snooze Button

Stop Coming Too Soon With The Snooze Technique
The second technique should be saved for the very last line of defense. And it involves manually stopping your ejaculation.

Despite what most guys assume, your ejaculation and orgasm are two separate physical actions (1). They often occur together, but they don’t have to.

This technique involves pressing your perineum to stop your ejaculation, but not your orgasm.

Finding Your Perineum

The perineum is located midway between your anus and your scrotum. You’ll know you have the right point when you feel it pulsate during orgasm.

Sorry guys. Hope you’re not halfway through lunch, but we need a diagram here:

Holding your perineum is an emergency method to last longer during intercourse

Here’s what to do:

  1. Press your perineum firmly as you are about to ejaculate
  2. Continue holding for the duration of your orgasm
  3. Release when you feel your contractions subsiding

If you get the right point, you will not physically ejaculate. Practice this on your own once or twice first.

Important: This method should be saved for emergencies only as a last line of defense. Don’t overuse it.

Further Methods

I teach 10 full instant cool down methods in my Ejaculation Freedom Training Program. Though once you learn the more powerful stuff to follow you won’t need these emergency methods at all.

2. How To Develop The Right Mindset For Longer Lasting Sex

To stop anxiety, negative thoughts or panic sabotaging your sex life, you need to do two things.

Step 1 is to learn the physical skills of ejaculation control.

If you haven’t made the effort to learn these skills you have good reason to be anxious before sex because you almost certainly won’t last.

The reason so many men struggle to last in bed is that you lack the physical skills, not because you have some psychological problem.

Once you have acquired and practiced the skills on this page a natural aura of confidence will follow.

Step 2 is to change your mental approach to sex by doing the following things…

Ways To Improve Your Sexual Mindset:

  • Women are not from Venus – And you are not from Mars. They share 99.9 percent of your DNA. Don’t view the opposite sex as a different species, or put them on a pedestal. Get comfortable with them.
  • View sex as an activity (that happens to be very enjoyable) and not something mystical or magical.
  • Talk to her. Tell a Joke. Lighten up. Laugh at your mistakes.
  • Learn my instant cool down techniques – knowing you have all 10 of these up your sleeve “just in case”, is often enough to eliminate doubt and panic completely.
  • You don’t have a sexual dysfunction – There are just a few new skills you need to learn.
  • Focus on her – mentally and physically. Try gently caressing your partner all over and focus in on how it feels. Her back, her legs, her hair. Not just the sexual areas. Everywhere.
  • Stop thinking about those what-ifs – As soon as your mind starts to wander, bring it back to your partner. Be present.
  • Stop thinking it’s all in your head. It’s not.
  • Stop thinking this is just the way you are. IT’S NOT.

And that’s it. Do this and you will be well on the way to lasting longer in bed every time.

3. Last Longer By Breathing The Right Way During Intercourse

Start Lasting Longer With The These Breathing Techniques

If you’re not breathing the right way during sex you will struggle to last in bed. And most guys who can’t last get this wrong.

But it’s easy to learn and it will make a difference straight away.

Breathing the right way relaxes your muscles, and removes the tension that would otherwise work its way down to your pelvic area.

The trick is to develop the habit of deep breathing before sex has begun. Picture this as you laying down a solid foundation for the performance you will soon be giving.

How To Breath During Sex

Diaphragmatic breathing will help you last longer in bed naturally

  1. Breath in through your nose steadily and deeply for 8 seconds. Visualize the air being pulled deep within. Don’t tense your muscles.
  2. Hold for 1 second.
  3. Breath out evenly and steadily through your mouth for 10 seconds. Don’t rush it. Visualize yourself breathing out tension, from deep within your core.

Your ejaculations are always caused by involuntary muscular tension and our goal with everything we will do will be to reduce and control that tension. A correct breathing method starts us out on the right foot.

For the guys doing the full program, you’ll get 3 separate breathing techniques to use before and during sex plus a more powerful one that will cool your system fast. We’ll also be learning more advanced methods using meditative and visualization techniques.

4. How To Read Your Sexual Responses And Take Action

I know it doesn’t feel like it right now, but your body is on your side. It wants you to succeed. To take control and delay ejaculation. It really does. Which is why it sends you direct signals every time you have sex. The problem is, most guys (and I’m betting you’re one of them) totally misinterpret them.

It’s not rocket science to listen to these signals. In fact, it’s flat out simple. You’ll be learning a huge number of techniques and skills and here is where you’ll know exactly when to use each of them.

Here I explain how to read these signals during each stage of arousal here.

5. Advanced Exercises To Last Longer In Bed Without Pills

The methods we’ve covered so far will get you started, but to fully develop your staying power you’ll need some physical training.

Do you know what causes ejaculation? If you’re like most of the guys I coach you probably have no idea.

It’s pretty simple. It’s just one muscle group that is responsible for triggering and propelling ejaculation. They are your PC muscles and next, we’ll learn how to control them.

This is important stuff because when your PC muscles are relaxed, it is literally impossible to ejaculate.

The problem is, it’s one of the hardest muscles in your body to control. But it can be done with the right training.

And I’ll be showing you exactly how to do it…

Edging Exercises

The stop and start method, the squeeze technique and traditional “edging” have been around for years and they are what most sex therapists and books will teach you. While they are better than nothing, I want to give you guys something better.

That’s why, after working with my clients, I have developed much more powerful methods. These advanced edging techniques let you build up more and more resistance to intense stimulation without any stopping and starting.

Premature Ejaculation Edging Exercises
You’ll get 8 advanced edging techniques in the full program and as you work through them your control will get better and better.  If you can’t afford to purchase my complete training program (it’s very cheap by the way) contact me here with a short note and I’ll make sure you get a copy of these techniques.

Kegels Exercises

A lot of amateur advice online tells you to do Kegels training to boost sexual stamina. But these standard Kegels won’t help you last longer and can make your problem worse.

Kegels are great at strengthening your pelvic floor or pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle). But they are not good at improving control over these muscles. And there is a BIG difference.

Because lasting longer in bed is about control, not strength. And it’s the tensing and flexing in this area that is the physical trigger of your ejaculation. So the last thing you want to do is strengthen it without boosting control.

That’s what standard Kegels do, and it’s why I advise against training using the traditional version. It’s also why I’ve developed a safe and more effective type of Kegels exercise. Stamina Kegels.

What Are Stamina Kegels?

Rather than focus on force, Stamina Kegels train you to release tension from your pelvic floor muscles. The trick is to focus on isolating your PC muscle and control it without flexing surrounding areas.

It will feel different to start with, but it doesn’t take long to build muscle memory. And after a week of daily 5-minute training sessions, you will be able to relax your PC Muscle on call.

6. Last Longer During Sex With The Best Positions And Techniques

Best Positions And Techniques To Last Longer

Next up, you’ll need some positions to last longer during intercourse.

Note: Once you have mastered all the skills, you’ll be able to last using any position you choose. But until then, you’ll need to understand and sometimes use the positions and techniques listed.

What to consider when choosing a Sexual position:

  • Muscular tension required (important – see below)
  • Amount of stimulation to the head of the penis
  • Depth of penetration
  • Amount of thrusting
  • Visuals

Reducing Involuntary Muscular Tension

Most guys assume that it’s all about the direct stimulation to your penis. But that’s only a small part of it. What’s more important is the way some positions cause you to flex your core muscles involuntarily.

This excess tension travels through your body, straight to your pelvic and ejaculatory muscles. Most guys don’t notice it happening until it’s too late.

But it’s easy to make a few small adjustments to stop this at its source.

Sexual Techniques To Help You Last Longer

There are also some specific sexual techniques you can put into action to instantly cool down. They need to be explained in detail, so you’ll need to do the full training program to get these in full.

Until then, here’s some quick tips:

  • Focus on grinding not thrusting.
  • Learn to rotate your pelvic section without tensing core muscles.
  • Know where your girl’s hot spots are and learn how to “hit them” without overheating yourself.
  • Distribute your weight to the right areas.
  • Move your entire body fluidly – Don’t just poke away with your groin.

Sexual techniques to extend intercourse

No More Stopping And Starting During Sex

I never encourage men to stop and start during sex. Women hate it and it leads to the wrong type of mindset. Use these instead.

You can get the full details and instructions for these positions and techniques in my Ejaculation Freedom training program. The great thing about them is that they allow you to continue sex while cooling your system.

7. How To Last During Hard, Pounding Sex Sessions (Advanced)

How To Last In Bed during Hard Sex

Next, there’s just one more thing you’ll need. And that’s the skills to stay in total control during those hard, pounding sex sessions that you’ve probably been missing out on.

Woman don’t want this kind of sex all the time. But make no mistake. They all need that feeling of being taken deep and hard once in a while.

And they will start to crave it after too much of the slow and soft stuff.

If you’re not satisfying your partner, she’s only a text to the Ex or a Tinder swipe away from getting this elsewhere. Here we’ll be making sure that you’re the man giving it to her.

For those who will miss out on the full program, here’s a rundown of what this final part of the course will cover.

  • A Powerful mental hack – that changes the way your frontal lobe makes sexual associations in bed
  • Pelvic thrusting techniques that allow for hard pounding sex without losing control
  • My Multi-focus technique that puts you in the zone every time
  • Take control of your ejaculatory muscle with a 3 pronged combo move
  • And all the advanced training modules…

If you’re working through the full training program, at this stage you’ll have built your stamina up to 10-20 minutes. This is where you will take it up a notch again and achieve full control. Now you can last as long as you choose – every time.

This is Ejaculation Freedom. It’s a great feeling. And you’re going to love it…

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Thanks for joining me and I hope that you now have a much better understanding of how your ejaculatory system works and the many ways you can train yourself to last longer in bed.

It’s not easy being a guy who can’t last in bed. Many of you are so ashamed that you just give up on sex. But the fact that you’re here and have read this far shows that you’re not that kind of man.

It also tells me that you are exactly the type of guy my training will work for.

Now let me hold up my end of the deal. I have total faith in my Ejaculation Freedom program. I’ve seen it work for thousands of men and I know that if you follow the straightforward, step-by-step methods I lay out, it will work just as well for you.

Yours Sincerely,

Dan Becket

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Your Week By Week Training Schedule

Your 1 Month Training Schedule To Last Longer In Bed
There’s a lot here for you to take in. And to understand this stuff 100% you’ll need to try it and experience it for yourself.

So next I’m going to show you your 4-week training schedule, should you decide to follow it. Again, this is all taken from my Ejaculation Freedom program.

Training Week 1

Week 1 is all about showing you how your ejaculatory system works and developing skills to control it at each stage of arousal. We’ll get you breathing correctly, putting your mind in an optimal state, and you’ll learn a stack of instant cool down methods. You’ll get started on ejaculatory training.

  • All about Premature Ejaculation (What it is, what causes it, and how you will fix it)
  • Breathing techniques
  • Instant cool down methods
  • Visualization and meditative techniques
  • Arousal Levels – understanding, reading and controlling them
  • Getting into a prime mental state before sex
  • Intro to Turn-backs and edging techniques
  • Getting started with ejaculatory training

Training Week 2

Now we switch it up a notch with more intense training. By the end of the week, you’ll be able to isolate and control individual ejaculatory muscles and will be achieving turn-backs during sex.

  • Reading your body’s signals and taking the RIGHT action
  • The best sexual positions and techniques and when to use them
  • Advanced instant cool down methods
  • How to achieve multiple turn backs during sex (without stopping)
  • Control Kegels and how to relax your PC muscle
  • Ejaculatory training level 2

Training Week 3

Here’s where we double down on the training. This is when my clients see all their new skills working together and it’s when you’ll reach a tipping point and know that premature ejaculation is not something you are stuck with. It’s a great feeling and will set you up for the final week of the program.

  • Advanced control Kegels
  • Advanced edging and turn-back techniques (to use during sex)
  • Advanced sexual techniques and when to use them
  • Stopping your ejaculatory reflex
  • Advanced ejaculatory training
  • Combo techniques – get everything working together

Training Week 4

It’s important for me to send you out the door at the end of the 4 weeks of training with the skills, techniques, and mindset to last as long as you choose. Here’s where we’ll cover the skills that will get you there. This is what I call Ejaculation Freedom. It’s a great feeling, and you are going to love it.

  • Getting in the zone every time (a state of flow)
  • Going beyond 20 minutes
  • Lasting during hard, pounding sex sessions (you will love this)
  • Sexual mastery
  • Making the most of your new-found stamina

And that’s it. Mark the date from today, and imagine how good you will be feeling in just 4 weeks if you start training right now.

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If you have any comments or questions about what we have covered you can leave a comment below (you can comment anonymously). Alternatively, you can contact me via email here. You can also check out more details on the full program here. Good luck with it! – Dan

Dan Becket
Dan Becket

Dan Becket is an award winning-researcher, coach and author on ejaculatory control and the treatment and prevention of premature ejaculation. He is the creator of Ejaculation Freedom – The worlds best premature ejaculation training program


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I never leave reviews but after reading your book and practicing your techniques, I feel it would be remiss if I didn’t. I’m about a week in and not only my confidence but more importantly, my stamina is through the roof. My fiancé sat me down last night, after our 20min+ ‘session’ and said we needed to talk. She told me that she didn’t know what I was doing different but there is a noticeable change. A change not only in the length of time we have sex but the intensity and passion has increased. She had to take a… Read more »

Hamaid Cheema
Hamaid Cheema

Hehe I usually don’t have such a problem but if i do , working math problems in my head and some hip rotation usually works till she orgasms but having sex after more than a week takes me to tricky waters before or just near to her orgasming, no amount of breathing control helps but i will give your tongue technique a go seems fun and a lot better than trying to multiply 69 with 97 :p


Hello Dan,

Can I get the price concession.


I have an issue. I am getting good at releasing the tension but then I actually pee lol. Even with a boner. I guess I need to just try going to the bathroom before I think I’m going to have sex but yep.


Hi Dan,
This education is very good. Actually I’m unmarried and use to see porn videos and do masturbation. I feel within a minute or two minute I have getting ejaculated. I have really bigger question and feel sad that can I able to last longer n bed with my girl. Because if I start using my hand for masturbation, within a minute ending with ejaculation. Kindly help me out what steps shall I do for last longer ? Expecting a kind help from u. Thanks.


Hi man, I am considering to get this program since it feels helpful from the things I’ve read so far. I have a problem with PE in 80% of the cases and I really want to make a change. You seem to know what you are talking about, do you think your book will help? I am from Europe. Thank you for your time, best regards


Hi Dan, my religious commitments prohibit masturbation, however I was wondering if training with my girl would work?


thank you so much for all you have thought me right now and will appreciate to be updated in every new steps




Does this program also helps for lasting longer for BJ ?