Do Premature Ejaculation Sprays Help You Last Longer In Bed?
Many of the men who complete my premature ejaculation course tell me that they have tried premature ejaculation sprays in the past in an attempt to last longer in bed. In fact, numbing or desensitizing agents such as sprays, aerosols, gels or ointments have been around for centuries and are often one of the first things men will try when they realize they have premature ejaculation.
These gels and sprays may be applied in different ways but they all work under the same simple premise. That early ejaculation is caused by too much stimulation to the penis. They attempt to fix this by removing sensation from the area (1).
Down the page, I’ll show you why this assumption is almost always incorrect but first, we’ll check out exactly what premature ejaculation sprays are, how they’re used whether they’re safe.
Types of sprays used to treat early ejaculation
These spays are marketed heavily online (along with premature ejaculation pills).
It’s true that all of these products work on the same principle, yet they fall into 2 categories and this will have in impact on how they are used. Non-penetrative sprays are applied directly before sex while penetrative sprays are applied beforehand and then washed thoroughly.
Non-penetrative sprays
This group of sprays and ointments have one huge practical floor and they should be avoided at all costs.
Because the active ingredient is still present during intercourse there is a very high risk of getting some of it on your partner and numbing her as well.
The female genitalia is highly sensitive and just a tiny amount coming into contact will completely deaden her senses in that area and make it virtually impossible to reach orgasm.
You’ll need to wear a condom when using this kind of spray or gel as a barrier but even then it can be very easy for a small amount of the numbing agent to end up coming into contact with your partner.
Penetrative premature ejaculation sprays
The difference with these products is that you apply the substance about 15 minutes prior to sex and then wash yourself thoroughly before intercourse. While many claim to be completely absorbed into the skin with many of these products there can be some seepage causing the same unintended transfer of the numbing agent as described above.
These products are often highly branded and backed by speculative pharmaceutical companies. They are also very expensive. As they will not have any permanent benefits they will need to be taken on an ongoing bases, which at about $100 for a small tube can quickly add up to quite a lot.
Do Premature Ejaculation Numbing Sprays Work?
So here’s the big question. Will numbing your genitals during sex help you last longer in bed?
To date, there has not been any peer-reviewed and independant research into these sprays with the only studies undertaken being limited and commissioned by the companies that sell them.
One product backed study claimed (on the product’s website) to make men “Last 80% longer in bed”. Yet this figure on its own is meaningless. Many men with premature ejaculation may only be able to last 20 seconds. an 80% improvement on this would still only be 36 seconds. Hardly worth the cost and awkwardness that goes along with these sprays.
I’ve talked to quite a few of my clients who have used this method in the past and around half of them reported being able to last longer in bed using a desensitizer. It was generally not for a lot longer though and all of them complained about the other problems with these products which are listed below.
Pros and Cons of Treating Premature Ejaculation With Desensitizers
Advantages
It’s Quick
You can start using it as soon as you buy it. Unlike a premature ejaculation course, there’s no training or having to learn anything new.
Relatively easy
It’s relatively easy to apply (although somewhat awkward to do with your partner present)
Can Delay ejaculation in some cases
While further studies are needed (3), it has been demonstrated that in some cases (sometimes in combination with drugs (4)) that lidocaine sprays can delay ejaculation slightly.
Disadvantages and Side Effects
The list of negatives and potential side effects is a long one
Greatly reduced pleasure during intercourse
Many men report a real lack of sexual enjoyment when having sex with numbed private parts with some becoming unable to maintain an erection.
Let’s face it. This is a pretty drastic measure and it is going to be really hard for both you and your partner to be able to enjoy yourselves while your genitals are numbed
Not permanent
While it’s quick and easy is it far from permanent so you will have to apply the spray or gel every time you have sex for the rest of your life.
Very expensive
With just one small can of penetrative PE spray costing around $80 the cost will add up fast. Because it has to be used on an ongoing basis the costs are going to add up fast. If you have (or hope to have) a fairly active sex life you’ll be running up into the 1000’s of dollars per year.
Risk of numbing your partner
You will have to take extreme care not to desensitize your partner. This is harder than it sounds especially during foreplay (which you should be doing)
Unspontaneous, unromantic and just a bit weird
Having to interrupt foreplay every time to spray something on your genitals is really going to break the mood. Not to mention having to stay away from your partner to avoid numbing her.
When you return 10 minutes later after your wash it’s likely that the moment will be well and truly over.
Can Cause Impotence
A widely reported drawback is that many men will become flaccid and remain unable to maintain an erection after application, due to the reduced sensation. This is also known as colloquially as “dead dick syndrome”. It’s usually only temporary, however.
It Can Make You Premature Ejaculation Worse
Another problem I’ve been told about by my clients is that their premature ejaculation becomes worse after trying numbing sprays. This occurs when men become used to the lack of sensation during intercourse. When they then try to have sex normally they are overly aware of the extra sensation and ejaculation instantaneously.
This isn’t a problem with too much sensation. it’s a problem with not being able to handle that extra stimulation. Which brings me to the real reason why numbing agents will never be as effective against premature ejaculation as a good training program.
The hypersensitive penis myth
After all premature ejaculation is caused by an overly sensitive penis right?…. Wrong.
I often ask guys who I first start to treat what they think is causing them to ejaculate prematurely. And you know what the most common answer is?
Most guys (around 70% in fact) will tell me that their penis is just too sensitive and that It can’t handle all the sensations during sex.
It seems like a pretty logical explanation on the surface. But once you get a little deeper into the problem it becomes obvious that there is a lot more going on and that over-sensitivity is rarely what’s causing your premature ejaculation.
Can I use sprays while completing the Ejaculation Freedom course?
For the guys I coach personally and the many others who complete the Ejaculation Freedom course on their own I always insist that they don’t use and premature ejaculation sprays, creams or anything that will act as an anesthetic or desensitize them.
This approach is totally unnecessary and goes against all the principles of ejaculation control I stress in the course. There are much, much better ways to naturally prevent premature climaxing and they are also much more enjoyable for you and your girl.
After all, do you really want to be known by the girls you’ve been with as “That guy with the dick spray”?
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